Drawing up a guest list is one of the first tasks, which sweethearts face when organizing a wedding. This step is not very pleasant because it is too time-consuming: you need to analyze all potential guests, calculate the budget, and refuse someone. Below, let’s consider how to choose invitees.
To begin with, let’s highlight those who must be present at the celebration. These are the closest people (mostly relatives):
- Bosom friends.
Of course, these categories of guests are relevant if you are on good terms with them. All other relatives (godparents, aunts, and uncles, cousins) are often limited to only rare calls with congratulations, so if you do not want to see them among invitees, you have the right to avoid them.
Trying to act with etiquette, couples make huge guest lists. Meanwhile, the budget shows other limits. Thus, note the categories of people you do not have to invite to your celebration:
- those who invited you to their wedding;
- parents’ friends (not to be confused with family friends);
- your guests’ beloved.
Also, pay attention to the moment when any of the invitees wants to bring a partner. If you indicated the option “guest +1” in the invitation, then this is quite reasonable. If you are not, you have the right to refuse.
Remember that a wedding is, first of all, a celebration for sweethearts. Thus, when compiling a guest list, take into account only your own feelings and not the advice/recommendations of relatives.
Finally, let’s consider how to correctly refuse. For some reason, it is this task that causes the most difficulties for the engaged couple.
Tip # 1: Don’t “scream” about the wedding. There is no need to turn it into a secret, but it is also not worth ringing left and right.
Tip # 2: Don’t make excuses. Answer calmly the questions about the wedding (including the provocative ones: “What about me?”). It is reasonable to say that the holiday will be modest, quiet, in the circle of the closest relatives. You shouldn’t feel guilty about rejection.
Tip # 3: Don’t be afraid to say no. You will regret more if your budget does not fit in with your extended guest list. It is better to arrange a wedding for 10-20 people than to give up everything that you dreamed of since childhood.
So, decide on the size and type of the celebration and create the list based on these points. Do not be afraid of refusing and expressing your point of view.