How to have a healthy argument with your partner

There is no single relationship where both partners fully agree with each other in all matters and situations. A dispute is a common way to find out new ways of developing relations, solving some questions or problems.

It is evident that two people have different points of view and various approaches to one matter. Thus, the main thing is to find a way to develop your argument healthily and correctly to come to the right conclusion and consider a situation from different sides. Let’s see these points: 1. Do not be too emotional. When starting an argument, try to control yourself. Firstly, if you give vent to emotions, you won’t be able to sensibly assess the situation. Secondly, being too stressed or nervous harm to your psychological health. Thus, just sit at the table and discuss a matter of discord in a calm manner. 2. Learn to listen to your partner. You should not only talk but also listen to the other party. By the way, there is a difference between listening to and understanding. Try to understand your partner’s point of view. You should not just sit silent and pretend that you try to understand your partner. Put yourself in his/her shoes. Remember that no dispute can be solved if partners do not want and try to understand each other. 3. Do not uphold your opinion just to win. Remember that the purpose of your argument is to find the right way out of the existing situation but not to show you dominance. If you don't want to have an unhealthy relationship, your purpose is to express your own point of view and listen to your partner’s one. And together, you should find a compromise or accept that one of you is right. But do not try to stand your ground just to win. 4. Ask questions freely. A healthy dialogue is the one where two people discuss a certain point asking questions and arguing points of view. Do not be afraid of posing questions. Moreover, more questions you ask each other, more information you will be able to find out. One of your questions may open a new side of a problem or become a hint to the solution of a matter. 5. Accept your opponent’s point of view. Do not be stubborn and accept your partner’s opinion. It is difficult but you should work on yourself and over time, you’ll find ways and words to show that you’re ready to accept your partner’s rightness. In any case, if you’re going to have an argument with your partner, keep in mind these 5 points. They will help develop a healthy and fruitful dialogue.