Making a wedding guest list without hurting anybody’s feelings is, perhaps, one of the most difficult challenges the couple faces when organizing their ceremony. Below are the most typical problems cropping up when concocting a wedding guest list and ways to resolve them.
1. Your parents are divorced and not get along well with each other, but you want to see them both at your wedding. If your parents do not communicate with each other, but you keep in touch with both and want them to be presented at your Big Day, you should talk to each of them before inviting to the ceremony. Start this conversation with the parent with whom you communicate more often and closer. Most likely, parents will understand your desire and will not be against to come and support you on the most important day of your life. If they refuse steadfastly, try to explain to them that for you it is a unique day and it is important for you that they both attend the event. Promise to seat them at different tables. The same applies to other guests who cannot endure each other.
2. Your parents are divorced and both are married again. If your divorced parents have new spouses or are in new relationships, it is better to invite them together with their new partners, that way your parents will feel more relaxed and comfortable when their significant other is around. A more difficult situation is when only one of the parents has found a new love. It is a very delicate matter and should be discussed individually with each parent.
3. Some guests sure hope that you will invite them to your wedding. There will always be such people who will constantly ask you about the upcoming celebration, showing genuine interest in the event, discussing the details of the celebration, and being fully confident that you will invite them. Their elevated attention to your wedding does not oblige you to invite such people to your wedding reception. Try not to talk much about your wedding with persons whom you are not going to include on your wedding guest list. If they still show stubborn interest in your fest, muster a reasonable argument why you cannot invite this or that person such as a tight budget, a limited number of seats in a restaurant, your intention to celebrate in a narrow circle of relatives.
4. You want to invite a few colleagues but do not want to see the whole work team at your wedding. Follow the non-disclosure rule in such a situation and avoid discussing the impending celebration at work so that the unwanted colleagues will simply not guess that you are going to get married.
5. Some of the prospective invitees may bring their children to your celebration. You should decide with your partner in advance whether your celebratory event will or will not allow children. Answer to yourself: can you afford a special entertaining program for children at your wedding and a separate kids menu? Are you ready for the fact that your dear friend will leave your party earlier, just because his/her child is tired and bored? Discuss with your beloved one all pros and cons of the situation and let your invitees know about your decision in advance to avoid confusion and unnecessary resentments.